AN ENLIGHTENED ALTERNATIVE TO THE SEDUCTION COMMUNITY

The Way of the Superior Man is one of my all-time favourite guides to life. I've been carrying it around on my travels recently, dipping into it randomly, and have probably read it in total five or six times. It doesn't stop giving.

I spent a long time searching for the truth on the subject of sexuality, reading masses and masses of material on seduction and relationship dynamics. The trouble was, I still hadn't learnt to cease looking for an external truth and start looking to simply remember a truth that I already knew in my heart. I ended up accumulating facts, facts, facts and losing touch with this sacred reality, making my interactions in the real world more and more weird and dysfunctional. Nowadays I occasionally catch myself thinking with these old patterns, but mostly I've shed the bullshit and have much more authentic and enjoyable relationships.

Before filling my head with seduction community material, I'd had my head filled with feminist ideas by my society and my parents. Now... I love feminism if it helps women get treated more fairly, though one of the side effects of the movement is that it created more accumulable facts about what genders are supposed to be. Some of these ideas were right, some were wrong, but maybe it doesn't even MATTER if they are right and wrong, because if you need to be told how to be what you already are then something is off! That is what I believe. I know most hardcore feminist advocates have a perspective that social conditioning is something close to 100% of what creates our behaviour, but I think that social conditioning is mostly something that is piled artificially on top of our true, perfect inner selves, and that you can get more or less distanced from that in consequence. So I don't think a new, more fair social conditioning is the answer (or at least, it's no better than a symptomatic relief). I think removal of all corrupted social conditioning and a return to innocence is.

Having chosen to listen to the feminist ideas that have become the political correctness of our society, I found myself sexually unsatisfied and very confused about my place as a man. This was why I began my search for the truth on this matter and ended up reading seduction literature.

One of the guys who helped pick me up out of my muddle was David Deida. In The Way of the Superior Man, he gave me what I needed: a reminder of what my soul says, to get past what society says. I remembered that there was indeed a difference between the two sexual drives, it is beautiful, and it cannot be ignored if we want to live life in truth and happiness.

Deida doesn't write in language like "you should do this", or "you should be that". He's not attempting to create a new conformity. He writes reverently and poetically, describing the sexual dance and creating a guide for someone - of either gender - who chooses to act as the masculine role in this dance. This goes beyond just what you do with your lover. It's something which permeates everything you do in every moment of your life.

Despite all this big-picture stuff, in the end The Way of the Superior Man is a very practical spiritual guide. It is a guide to life, not a guide to finding enlightenment in a secluded cave in the Himalayas. I love this of it.

In order to learn to live as a masculine man, or how to channel your masculine side as a woman, as well as getting a clear idea of what sexuality is in the context of both sexes, this is an excellent book. I don't know if there are any others like it so willing to break taboos and tell things exactly as they are.

Check it out on Amazon.

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